Ask Me Not To Leave You - Lenny Smith

Surely by now you know that your spouse is not here to make you happy. Happiness is available, but it is up to each of us to find it and embrace it. Our spouse is here for other reasons…..all related to helping us become brighter lights, more kind and gentle, more loving, less egotistical, more thoughtful, more aware of our real mission on earth. Why should we resent them for doing us such a favor? If you are oil, you probably married someone who is vinegar. If you are vinegar, you probably married someone who is oil. It was to give us something we didn’t have much of. Then, later, why do we resent that they are so different from us? It is their difference that we love so much, yet we tend to resent it. Their difference is not an affront to us, it is an addition. I say, if you can, stay with the one you love and allow your edges to be filed-down. I am not making excuses for meanness. Even if there is meanness at times, we can respond with understanding that that meanness is not who they really are, just as our occasional meanness is not who we really are. Our egos are bottomless pits of wanting, fear, taking offense, and victimhood. Fortunately, we are not our egos! We are eternal spirits, lovely, kind, gentle, generous, patient, wise, taking no offense, pure and holy. We just have to remember who we are…….and who they really are:). Can you remember how smitten you were at first? They are still that wonderful being! Stay the course. They are not what’s bothering you. You are what’s bothering you. In fact, it is not even the real you that is bothering you, but the false you….the ego. The ego is not evil, it just is not who or what you really are. You are lovely….and so are they!